I am not welcome in Malaysia. I accept that it is so because of the things I write here and in steadyaku47. I accept that there are people in Bolehland who wants to tell me that Malays like me who lambast the Royals and tell Malay politicians that they are all corrupt and greedy, deserves to be made to understand that sooner rather than later, I will be a person of interest to PDRM….the same PDRM that my late father served with honor and distinction all his life.
And then, of course, there are people in Bolehland who have got scores to settle with me – like Mr. Sultan down South and that Dickhead of a son that he has.
While all this does not bother me at all, what is depressing is that there are now too many Malaysian who are in the same position as I am. … albeit they are silent in what they have to endure at the hands of the high and mighty in Bolehland. They are silent not because they lack the courage to continue with their convictions, but they are silent because sometimes, discretion is the better part of valor. Especially when valor begets much pain and suffering not only upon yourself but also upon those you love and care for.
Our people have forgotten to disagree with one another. Disagree with grace and respect for each other. I believe that it is vital that we are given the choice and freedom to disagree with one another because disagreement makes us be more decent towards each other.
“To say the words, “I agree” — whether it’s agreeing to join an organization, or submit to a political authority, or subscribe to a religious faith — may be the basis of every community.
But to say, I disagree; I refuse; you’re wrong; etiam si omnes — ego non — these are the words that define our individuality, give us our freedom, enjoin our tolerance, enlarge our perspectives, seize our attention, energize our progress, make our democracies real, and give hope and courage to oppressed people everywhere” The Dying Art of Disagreement by Bret Stephens.
Malaysian are now unable to disagree with grace. If you are with PAS and I am DAP then the disagreement becomes intensely personal. If you are a Malay and I am a Chinese then an interracial marriage is impossible unless the Chinese convert to Islam. We must seriously question why this is so. We need to listen to and understand each other. We have to question and agree to disagree and be willing to consider ideas that are different from us. We need to have an open mind but our education system does not allow us to cultivate that “open mind”.
And if we do disagree, then you must first understand well what you are disagreeing about.
“In other words, to disagree well you must first understand well. You have to read deeply, listen carefully, watch closely. You need to grant your adversary moral respect; give him the intellectual benefit of doubt; have sympathy for his motives and participate empathically with his line of reasoning. And you need to allow for the possibility that you might yet be persuaded of what he has to say” The Dying Art of Disagreement by Bret Stephens.